Hell, being single is a lot better than settling for some asshole, because you’re terrified of being alone. If you want to be single and are doing that by choice, that’s good on you. I’m not harping on monogamy over here as the end-all-be-all goal for happiness. It’s cool to be single if you want to be single. If your partner isn’t obsessed with you, what’s the point? Being single is better than settling. The person you're meant to be with will be OBSESSED with you. A person who does this is NOT worth your time. This person should not be telling you not to tag them in photos (so people can't see you're together), not texting you for days on end (and not caring if it upsets you), always making you come to his or her neighborhood because he or she doesn’t want to travel. If someone wants to be with you they should be obsessed with you. So, why are so many of us settling for this half-baked love?Īll of this lukewarm bullshit is fucked. If you really like someone, you make an effort. We make the effort when we give a shit and then spend the rest of the time worrying about you.
If he wants to make it happen, he makes it happen. A guy who’s really into you is always responding to you. This was obviously not what she wanted to hear, but the guy she’s seeing only texts her back every few days. “If he can’t even be bothered to text you back, he’s not that into you.” She looked to me, doe-eyed and needing reassurance about the guy she’s seeing. “Maybe he’s just not a big texter,” my friend said to me over lunch in the East Village.